[Sample] Letter to a Deceased Loved One

[Sample] Letter to a Deceased Loved One

I'd want to start this piece by stating that this letter is for my grandma, who died away earlier this year, and is sent to her on my behalf. 

In writing this letter, I aim to connect with my reader and convey my own grief myself.
Dearly Beloved,

I sometimes feel like I can't weep anymore because I'm so sad for you, but that's never the case. Even though I don't think about you as often as I did when I first started on this journey—more than two months ago—you are never really forgotten. 

Happy memories are tinged with melancholy when I realise that there was a final time and there will never be another for each of the many activities we did together. Doing activities that we used to routinely do together is challenging. Making handmade biscuits or blending lemonade in the same manner is unthinkable to me.

I had to get used to living without you when you passed away. I had never experienced a world without you. You were in the room next to me throughout your last years; I had never even known a world where you lived more than a mile away from my home.

Alzheimer's characterised you in the last years of your life. It may be challenging to care for someone who has Alzheimer's, and I regrettably harboured resentments against you at times. Your personality was eroded by the sickness. You were unable to prepare food or sew. 

You couldn't do it alone, and you were always seeking solutions to the same issues. It was much too easy for me to lose sight of who you were before the illness, and looking back, I regret some of the decisions I made. I really hope you'll pardon me for this.

I believed I had a solid idea of who you were as a person while you were still living. You have consistently been there for me. You had a significant role in forming the person I am today. But once you passed away, I felt as if I knew nothing about you. 

I was ignorant of a great deal of your life, and I never bothered to ask you about it. I'm sorry I didn't recognise before that thinking of you exclusively in terms of myself was a naive way to think of you. The curse of any loss, but particularly the sorrow of death, is that one does not really appreciate another until it is too late.

I came to the realisation that you would never get to see me graduate from college as I took part in the funeral ceremonies. One of several things you wouldn't go through with me. I want you to be happy with me. I'm hoping you'll support my decisions and still be in love with me.

I won't keep you in my daily thoughts. As difficult as it may be to think about it, there will come a moment when I have learned to live without you. However, I will always remember who you are, what you represent to me, and what you taught me. You showed me how to be kind and how to carefully do my assignments. 

You showed me how to be hospitable and prepare spam. I'm hoping I can honour your memory. I will always take good care of the things you gave me to keep. Even though you aren't here, I'm glad for all the little aspects of your life that I get to incorporate into mine.

My life is not over even if this chapter has come to a close. I wish to conduct my life in a manner that respects your memories. I am certain that I will run into you again. So I won't say goodbye right away because of that. I'll just say good night.


When comforting a mourning friend or family member, words never seem to be enough. 

Although there are many methods to express condolences, sometimes we are at a loss for words, and taking the time to send a kind note, card, or letter gives a personal touch.

A written message allows you to express your sorrow, pay tribute to the departed, and respect the grief of your friends and family. 

A brief message is a thoughtful approach to express families' support at a critical time while also providing comfort to the individual recipients.

Being authentic, empathetic, and sincere are the most crucial factors to take into account while writing condolence. Recognize that every person's experience with loss is different, and refrain from saying things like "it's for the best" or "everything occurs for a reason."

How to write a letter to a deceased loved one/

The following seven elements should be included while writing a heartfelt sympathy letter, according to Angela Morrow:

1. Give the dead person's name.

Be straightforward and use the deceased's name in your letter. The act of saying or hearing the deceased's name might provide consolation to the bereaved person and act as a reminder of their existence.

2. Describe your sorrow.

Include a phrase in your letter that simply says the obvious when you write to offer your condolences. Saying "I'm very sad to learn that your mom passed away" is acceptable. 

You may use words like "passed away" or "transitioned" depending on your audience, but don't be afraid to be sincere.

3. Mention a unique quality about the dead.

You could be tempted to make your letter short and general so as not to burden the mourning individual, but consider highlighting something unique about the dead. 

Your sympathy letter will seem much more personalized and emotional when you include personal information.

4. Remind your buddy or relative of their positive traits.

It's normal to feel lost, powerless, and alone during mourning. Remind the bereaved in your letter of their own abilities and virtues, which may help them deal with the loss or feel loved and supported. Perhaps you might remind them of their positivism, fortitude, hope, or faith.

5. Tell a story.

Don't be afraid to include in your letter a treasured recollection of the dead. These recollections may provide comfort, pleasure, and a sense of connection to the bereaved, especially if it's a memory they may not have heard before.

6. Offer to assist.

Consider offering a useful and concrete activity you can do to assist your mourning family member or friend instead of making an imprecise offer of support. You may ask, "Can I bring you supper next weekend?" in place of, "I'm here for anything you need."

7. Finish by expressing compassion.

Try something more direct instead of the standard letter closings of "sincerely," "love," or "thinking of you": "You are in my thoughts and prayers," "I am here to support you," or "I am with you in prayer and presence." These words serve to emphasize the grieving person's continued need for compassion and assistance.

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Sample letter to a deceased loved one


When I found out about the passing of your brother, Michael, I was both astonished and devastated.

(1) I am aware that you saw him as "your twin" and were close to him. Your sorrow must be unbearable, in my opinion. Knowing that I am here for you will help. (2)

Mark was devoted to his family and the church, and he was attentive and giving. I knew I could depend on Mark if I needed assistance with a particular occasion. (3) I've also seen that you have some of Mark's greatest traits since you go above and beyond to assist others. (4)

I shall treasure my recollections of Mark. I recall our first encounter with Mark being at a dinner you threw. Everyone in the room laughed at his quips, and his grin was contagious. (5)

You will have an extremely busy week next week. For you, I'll take Brett and Braden to and from school. If that works for you, Monday after school, my kids would love to have them stay and play. (6)

Peace to you, and know that I'm here to help you through this trying time.

I adore you,


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